Is it OK to Have Our Baby Shower Before the Birthmother Has the Baby?

A pregnant woman (or expectant father) is not obligated to terminate her parental rights. She is not obligated to place her child for adoption. Unless and until she decides different, the baby is hers. Period.

adoption, adoptive parents, child, birthmotherSally BacchettaJanuary 28, 2019adoption, birthmother, baby shower Comments

Your One That Got Away

In many of the little moments and all of the big ones, I think about your first mothers. They both said they chose adoption out of love. They both said "I'm not able to be the mother I want my child to have. You are.”

birthmother, parenting, child, adoption, adoptive parentsSally BacchettaDecember 15, 2018adoption, adoptive parent, child, birthmotherComment

Why Do I Cry When You Sing?

Because I get to hear you sing. I get to see the life in your face.

adoption, birthmother, parenting, childSally BacchettaNovember 13, 2018adoption, adoptive parents, mother, birthmother, singing Comments

Fair is an Opportunity, Not an Outcome

On a recent sunny morning I took my son, one of his pals, and 2 fresh donuts to a playground. As Pal lifted his for the first bite he dropped it in the dirt. He wasn't into either the 5 second rule or my son's offer to share his un-dropped donut, so he looked on dejectedly as my son enjoyed his treat.

childrenSally BacchettaJuly 28, 2018adoption, sharing, fairness, opportunity, outcomeComment

10 Reasons Adoptive Parents Shouldn't Change Their Child's Name

I'm unsettled when adoptive parents change their child's name from their originally given name. So much is unknown; so much is unrecoverable. Can't you let that remain intact?

adoption, birth mother, children, parentingSally BacchettaMarch 19, 2018children, child, name, adoptive parents, birth motherComment

Should Adoptive Parents Be There for the Birth?

No woman can predict 100% how she will feel about her child once it's no longer part of her body, when she can gaze and marvel and bond in a completely different way.

adoption, children, parenting, birth motherSally BacchettaMarch 15, 2018adoptive parents, children, birth, mother, childbirth, birth motherComment

I Have Your Socks

You've outgrown your socks again. I noticed them riding just above the bottom of your heel this morning.

adoption, childrenSally BacchettaMarch 8, 2018children, child, mother, adoptive mother, daughter, sonComment

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